நண்பனும், அவனின் பிரச்சனைகளும்

என்னுடைய ஒரு நண்பன், எப்போதும் அவனின் போதை தெளிவு பெற என்னை போட்டு பாடு படுத்தி எடுக்கும் ஒரு சோகமான பதிவு தான் இது.. நமக்கே ஆயிரம் பிரச்னை என்று போய் கொண்டு இருக்கும்போது, நம்மை என்னமோ இந்த உலகத்துக்கு ஆனந்தம் மட்டுமே பரிசு கொடுக்க வந்த 'கார்பொரேட் சாமியார்' என்று நினைத்து கொண்டு என்னிடம் புலம்பி தள்ளுவது அவனுக்கு எப்போதுமே கை வந்த கலை.. எப்போது எனக்கு அது கால் வந்த கலை என்று ஆகி அடித்து துரத்த போகிறேன் என்று தெரியவில்லை. அவசரமாக வெளியே கிளம்ப போகும் வேளையில் - ' எனக்கு மட்டும் ஏன் இப்படி ஆகுது ஹரி.. என்னுடைய அம்மாக்கும் பொண்டாடிக்கும் எப்படி பிரச்னை சரி பண்றது.' னு கேட்டு என்னுடைய அறிவுரை(?!!!) கேட்பான். இந்த பிரச்னை தான் எல்லா குடும்பத்திலும் உண்டே, ஆதாம் ஏவாள் இரண்டு பேரை தவிர மற்ற எல்லா கணவன் மனைவியும் கண்ட பிரச்னை தான் இது. எனக்கு அடுத்த மாசம் தான் கல்யாணம், இந்த மாதிரி பிரச்சனையில் அனுபவம் வேறு இல்லை. எப்படி சொல்லுவேன் அவனுக்கு ஆறுதல். என்னதான் பிரச்னை என்று ஒரு கேள்வி கேட்டது தான் என்னுடைய தப்பு.

'என்னுடைய அம்மா, என்னோட பொண்டாட்டி ரெண்டு பேரும் விட்டு கொடுத்து போறது இல்லை, எப்போ பார்த்தாலும் ஏதாவது சின்ன விஷயத்துக்கு கோவம் வருது. அவுங்க ரெண்டு பெரும் பிடிச்ச மாதிரி சமையல் செய்யணும் னு சண்டை.. என் பொண்டாட்டி அவ தங்கச்சி வீட்டுக்கு போக விடலைனு சண்டை.. அம்மாக்கு பொண்டாடிக்கு எடுத்த மாதிரி விலை அதிகமா புடவை எடுக்கல னு கோவம். அதே பொண்டாடிக்கு அந்த புடவை விலை கம்மியா இருக்கேனு கவலை. வேலைக்காரி வரலையா, தண்ணீர் மோட்டார் ல வரல னு சின்ன சீன விஷயம் பெருசா ஆகி, வார்த்தைகள் தடித்து என்னைய கடுப்பு ஏத்தி விடுது' னு வரிசையா லிஸ்ட் போட்டுக்கிட்டே போனான். எனக்கு மயக்கம் தெளிய காளிமார்க் சோடாவும் முயன்று தோற்று போனது.. ஸ்ஸ்ஸ்ஸ்.. அப்பா.. சத்தியமா கண்ணை கட்டி விட்ட மாதிரி இருந்துச்சு. தூரத்தில் நவம்பர் மாசம் வருது னு எனக்கு எச்சரிக்கை மணி வேற அடிக்குது. எல்லாத்தையும் சமாளிச்சு, அவன் கிட்ட என்ன பேசறது னு தெரியாம எப்பவும் போல நம்ம பிரதமர் மாதிரி சிரிச்சு சமாளிச்சு அவனை வழி அனுப்பி விட்டுட்டு வந்தேன். அவன் நிம்மதியா தான் போறான் அவன் பாரம் இறங்கி போயிடுச்சு னு, ஆனா என்னைய அவனோட போதைக்கு ஊறுகாய் ஆக்கினது தான் வருத்தமா போச்சு.

இது எல்லாவற்றிலும் என்னுடைய பதில் என்ன என்பதை எதிர்பார்க்கும் அந்த வேளையிலும் என்னுடை நேரத்தையும் முழுசா முழுங்கிகிட்டு ஒண்ணுமே தெரியாத வித்தை எல்லாம் எங்க இருந்து தான் வருது உங்களுக்கு னு நினைச்சுப்பேன்.. சில சமயம் அவனின் மனைவி பேசும்போது என்னை மாட்டிவிட்டு, அவர்களும் என்னை சாலமன் பாப்பையா மாதிரி நடுவர் ஆக்கி அமைதியா இருப்பாங்க. பெண்களிடம் பிடிக்காத ஒன்று , அவர்கள் பக்கம் நியாயம் வேண்டும் என்பதில் உறுதியா இருப்பர். ஆனால் இரண்டு பெண்கள் மோதும் இடத்தில் எந்த பெண்ணை ஆதரித்து பேசுவது என்பது மிகவும் சிக்கலான காரியம் தான். (எப்படி எல்லாம் மாட்டி இருக்கேன், பாருங்க). அவர்களை சமாளித்து வெளியில் வருவது என்பது நான்கு மணி நேரம் விவசாயி இல்லா மின்சாரம் பெற்றது போன்ற மகிழ்ச்சி தரக்கூடிய ஒன்று. தப்பித்து ஓடி வந்தால் போதும்.

அவர்களின் பிரச்னை என்ன என்று தெரிந்தும் தீர்க்க முடியாத அப்பாவியா இருக்கும் நண்பனை பெற்றது என்ன பெரிய பேறு. அவனிடம் எல்லாவற்றிலும் நீ தான் முடிவு எடுக்கணும் னு சொல்லிட்டு கிளம்பி வந்துட்டேன். இப்படி இருக்கும் ஆட்களிடம் இருந்து தப்பிக்க கண்டிப்பாக நாம் விலகி இருப்பது நல்லது தான்.அக்கறை கொண்டு ஆறுதல் கூற நான் எப்போதுமே தயார், ஆனால் உன் சோக மூட்டையை தூக்கி கொண்டு ஓட நான் ஆள் இல்லை. இப்போது விளையாட்டாக சொன்னபடி இல்லாமல், நிச்சயமா உட்கார்ந்து கேட்கவும் நான் இருக்கிறேன். ஆனால் முடிவு எல்லாம் நீ தான் எடுக்க வேண்டும். என் பக்கம் தள்ளி விட்டு வேடிக்கை பார்த்து கொண்டு இருப்பதை நானும் அனுமதிக்க மாட்டேன்.  உதவி செய்ய வேண்டிய இடத்தில் இருப்பவனும் நண்பன் தான், உதவி செய்ய கூடாத இடத்தில் இல்லாமல் இருப்பவனும் நண்பன் தான். பிரச்சனைகளை தீர்த்து விட்டு, வாழ்வியலை நன்றாக மகிழ்ச்சியாக வாழ வாழ்த்துக்கள்.

Cheers,
~Sudhan

Planning for one day Holiday ..!!

I’m in office now and feeling a little bored so,thought of blogging at this time!!! It’s not that I had nothing to do, just that no mood to do. :)

As the weekend is around the corner; me and my friend were planning where to go and what to do? We were just thinking what a perfect holiday sounds like..

My suggestion and plan would be over to beach side. I always have fun watching beach, its waves. It always gives immense pleasure as a kid getting a chocolates and ice creams.Just jumping into the beach whenever you feel like and just enjoying the waves..
Listening to Ilaiyaraja music sitting on the sea shore is one of the best/perfect thing to do on a holiday. Try it out folks..!! you will love love it for sure..!!
Watching the sunset..Walking along the beach side in the night.(yes of course, sometime - having beer while walking. :) )

Over to my desk:
One of my colleague came to my desk and asked me did u had beer yesterday? I was feeling like having beer in the morning. I said I’ll try to have one in coming days.. :)
Thot of enjoying at office at least thinking that i will have beer in coming days..!! HA HA..!!

Cheers,
Sudhan

பிறந்தநாள் தின நல்வாழ்த்துக்கள் அம்மா

Good day, friends....

Today is my mother’s birthday,There is something wonderful about a mother who loves big,something that stays with you forever. And nothing ,nothing can separate you from that love; not sickness, poverty, riches, sadness, joy, miles, loss of memory, or even death. It’s a love that endures beyond time and space and lives very deeply in the heart of the soul.

பிறந்தநாள் இன்று பிறந்தநாள்
நாம் பிள்ளைகள் போலே
தொல்லைகள் எல்லாம் மறந்த நாள்
ஹேப்பி பர்த்டே டூ யூ.....

பல ஆண்டு மகிழ்ச்சிகரமாக வாழ எல்லாம் வல்ல இறைவனை பிரார்த்திக்கிறோம்

~Sudhan

Re cycle

First - am sorry fellas for a terribly late post and haven't been around in your space lately, and if I quote work, none of you are going to believe me including my seniors... hmm so a small thought and crack.. :
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Everyday tons of materials/stuff get thrown away, a short note about why and what are disposed after the end of its life...

Shoe - Because you get kicked, your feet grow faster than your brain , flicked in the temple..etc

Battery - Because you click photographs of your gal more than clicking the mouse, etc..

Clothes - Because girls want to look sexy and skimpy (not possible with traditional Indian wear ) , wardrobe is full, mom keeps on yelling .

Spectacles - Because I keep staring at the monitor 24x7 WORKING and you all are glued to social networking sites and chatting ( not a sarcastic "I")

Paper - Because the letters from cupid doesn't get poetic enuf to impress the dumb Blondie, Printing is free in office, etc..

Grandparents - Because they are all OLD, burden and of no help - a common scenario for people who leave and settle abroad

Plastic - Because the Plastic awareness is not as important as Aids, bottles are no good,

Aluminium foils - Because all the wrappers are homeless, the chocolates are tastier and not these, etc..

CD's - Because the movies are played in local channels the pirated CD's are no good, easier to download from freebie illegal sites than buy a CD..etc..

Tires - Because they are punctured heavily by driving back and forth to the shop less than a mile away

Well all of the above mentioned are capable of being recycled and that too very effectively. But it always is up to the individual to decide to recycle or not. LIFE is no different, everyone thinks they are wasted at a point of time, but the truth is... it is recyclable as well.

Am turning all pilisopical ( Wat's the spelling anyways) ... :)

Cheers,
Sudhan

Competing God....

What is God? Who is He? All religions and faiths seem to agree that God is Supreme and is the Creator of all there is. Yet, we find intense lobbying, and worse, by followers of various faiths to get others to accept that their God is the only real One.

It seems incomprehensible that God would choose to send His representatives to earth repeatedly after suitable gaps of time, only to reveal yet another name and form to be believed and followed, to the exclusion of all others revealed earlier. This has, and will continue to, set humans against each other, leading to unspeakable cruelty and destruction in His name.

'My heaven is better than yours; my hell worse', each God appears to be yelling. There is a devil too to keep throwing a spanner in God's design. To add another twist, even among followers of one God there are competing branches and sects. This suggests a scenario where, up in the heavens, a few ' warlords' are ruthlessly engaged in gathering more and even more earthly followers in a show of competitive strength. Each seems mortally afraid of losing his flock to the other. Therefore the inducement of heaven to followers and threat of hell to the rest. Out of this fear flows on earth intolerance and fanaticism which, ironically, propels some ' devout' followers straight into the 'devil's' camp, as they indulge in trickery, treachery and ruthless destruction to 'protect' and propagate their version of God.

Can this be God's design? Is He just another sadist who revels in this misery and sorrow in His name? Can God, the creator of all there was, is and will be, have competitors? Aren't all Gods and even the devil His own creation, an inseperable part of Him, like each one of us is? Could He then have created such destructive, competing compartments here on earth?

An Indian mystic had once said ' All are children of the same Spark; which ones are good and which ones bad?'. Where lies the answer? To me, the key seems to be in the understanding that all paths can lead to that one Spark who is above and beyond all competition, and is with and within all. On any path, only love of God will take you to Him or bring Him to you. And love for God cannot exist without love for all His creation, no matter on which path. Conditional love is nothing but masked hatred. That surely cannot be His Word. Once you reach Him, no matter how, the path should simply dissolve. The ignorant, who have not walked their talk, claim loudly, often with venom, that that theirs alone is the true path. How can they know?

50 First Dates - Though its old movie, thought of writing a review after i watched it now :)

50 First Dates is a romantic-comedy featuring Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. The plot of the movie revolves around the character Lucy, who has short-term memory loss due to a car accident. Adam Sandler, who plays Henry, starts off as a man who fooled female tourists in Hawaii to sleep with him. This all changed when he met Lucy at a café. This is where Henry wooed Lucy at first with his humor and charm, but little did he know that the next morning for their breakfast date, she would have absolutely no idea who Henry was. Henry then found out from Lucy’s father and brother that she had short-term memory loss and that they had no intentions for Henry to ruin there plans of reenacting all the events that happened the day she got in her car accident. Lucy’s father and brother printed out hundreds of newspapers that were printed the day that it all happened, which was her father’s birthday. Soon after Henry made a videotape showing all the details of what had happened to her through out the year she had had missing, and showed it to her every morning when she woke up. She then would realize whom Henry was every morning from the cassette and Henry would make her fall in love with him all over again. Lucy then broke up with Henry because she didn’t want him to live a miserable life. After time went by and Henry was off to sail to Alaska, he realized that Lucy had to have remembered him if she sang while he away from her because she only sang when she thought of him. Lucy then revealed that she would paint pictures of him because she would see him in her dreams. They then get married and have a kid and end up sailing to Alaska together while having her watch the videotape of her incident every day when she woke up.
After watching this movie numerous times it made me realize how horrible it must be to have either short-term or long-term memory loss. No matter how much the father and brother of Lucy in the movie, kept a happy smile in front of her, it is a real burden having to go through that everyday. Another thing that I realize is that not everyone is as lucky as Lucy was in the movie to remember things for a whole day. Others like the other character in the movie only remember what happens within 10 seconds and then forgets again.
This movie was a great balance of making it enjoyable yet a loving plot to watch and hear about, but it also had the intensity of the life of a person who had short-term memory. The dialogue in the movie made me actually laugh out loud, the humor was very accepting. I’ve always enjoyed romance-comedy movies such as this one because of the lightness of the story and the mood it gives me. The whole concept of Henry trying to make Lucy fall in love with him all over again everyday is very romantic and cute. It makes you realize about how many people out there, boys and girls who have situations like these happen to them and they continue to love these people. I loved how Henry went from being a type of man-whore, who slept with other women to have sex, to a loving guy who fell in love with one girl who couldn’t have been more different, but he accepted her very easily.

Nice movie...!! Enjoyment guaranteed...

Cheers,
Sudhan

Kodaikanal trip

There’s nothing like visiting a new place to remind us of who we are.

In my heart I know that this is what being in Kodai did for me. I mean, prior to the trip I knew I was burnt out exhausted, was demoralized by the on-goings in my workplace. It was clear to me that I needed to slow down, take a real break and breathe; even if it meant doing more work, work I love , to get there. Ironic, I know. But welcome to my world of full plates and multi-tasking. Take a seat and stay awhile.

Anyway, so, I did know all that before getting on the van, that I was tired and grumpy and not myself at all. That’s why I was so excited to get out of the city. I needed some distance and perspective but boy did I receive so much more. Because clarity comes when you least expect it and sometimes, the you that’s truer than true, appears behind the lens, beside friends, in a breathtaking, unassuming, unsuspecting super place.

The best part about Kodaikanal was that not only did it remind me of who I was, it made the best version of me quietly and without drama, appear. Being there, being away from what I knew, being submerged in a different culture, pressed to collaborate and work with 15 friends, detach and not have easy access to the reassurance and comfort of the grid, I exhaled and well, just let everything be.In the process, we worked as we communed with nature and brainstormed and planned as we ate, met people, took pictures and happily experienced Kodai’s identity.

In the end, the trip was a success, which was a good thing. That was why we were there in the first place,right?

But there was something else. I began to notice that I had a huge smile everywhere I went. That I talked to everybody, it didn’t matter who. That I made mental notes of what felt different but gave a voice to everything that was somewhat like home. I noticed that I listened more intently to what people were saying and had nothing but nice things to say. And it’s not like I didn’t do these things before. I guess it was what was happening inside me. There was a bearable lightness of being. It was refreshing and relaxed and I knew that this was what feeling happy and contented meant. It’s like a warm fuzzy cum culture shock and the best after taste in your mouth. Kodai really took me by surprise and it will always have a special corner in my heart.

Thanks again my friends for allowing me to discover myself in the most interesting, most productive and most fulfilling of ways.

Yes, I was there. Exactly where I needed to be.

Important information for tourists if you're going to Kodaikanal.

1. Don't take bath in the falls.
2. Have sweater with you since the climate is very cold.
3. Few tourist spots have entrance fee at a nominal rate.
4. Make the city green and clean.
5. there are also some tourist spots like Berijam lake, Berijam valley etc which can be accessed only if you get permission from the forest office in Kodaikanal.


Cheers,
~Sudhan