Supreme Court OK for premarital sex

Supreme court bench, comprises of chief justice KG Balakrishnan, justice Deepak Verma, and justice BS Chauhan, ruled that pre marital sex/cohabitation is not at all sin by citing the article Article 21, which guarantees the right to life and liberty as a fundamental right.

Supreme court ruling triggered heavy flak and applause from different section of the people including right and left wings. Indian law already guaranteed consent of sex to adults after completion of 15 years. Law commission in her 248th report suggested that minimum age to have sex should be exceeded to 16 years.Supreme court, till now, gave contradictory judgments regarding cohabitation, pre marital sex, dating in various occasions. But,till now, It didn’t give any precise definition in judgment.

In latest judgment, supreme court justified the practice of cohabitation by citing the intimate relationship of lord Sri krishna and Radha claiming they have had cohabitation.

Cohabitation and free sex concept intensified in India due to the LPG (liberalization, Globalization, Privatization) adoption in the culturally complex India. Educated Indian elite have been influencing and imitating the western epicurean philosophy by applying In the Indian atmosphere. Iam not at all condemning the western philosophy. we can adopt western thought, but it must be filtered to fit into Indian environment, rather than dumping in raw.

I would like to go through the genesis of why Indian educate elite stress much importance to this culture. Money and caste have been playing crucial role in Indian matrimonial alliances. Majority Indian families, still, unable to welcome their kins proposals to marry their love citing caste , money and status. This kind of hypocrite  attitude made fractures and strains to Vedic Indian culture.Recent survey observed that more than a quarter of India’s youngsters have premarital sex. Love and inter caste marriages without approval of parents are increasing day by day particularly in urban areas by questioning the validity of Hindu  family and marriage system

I personally welcome the judgement as it is protecting the interest of the people’s very civil and fundamental right to live according to their wish. But, Iam sure, youth may not understand spirit of this judgment due to mediocrity.Legally, supreme court has played its role in decent and smooth way by ensuring freedom of right to live.But, people should remember ethics and social norms. We must understand the very differences between ethics and law. Law cannot prescribe how should we live, it was ethics and social norms which explain the essence of living in welfare model.

I recall the words of Swami Vivekananda and Sri Aurobindo, who used to say the essence of mixing western and Indian philosophy for the awakening of Indians from orthodoxy to practical Vedanta for better living.

Cheers,
Sudhan

No Horn Please...!!!

“beeeepppp .. beeeeepppp”… “poooommm poooommmm” …. “tring tring tring tring”…. These are the sounds which one can never miss out when the light turns green in a traffic signal.

Recently I have been traveling to office by two wheeler and have been experiencing this scene in all the signals without an exception.
Even if the person is say about 100 mts from the signal, the second the green lights are on… he starts blaring his horn expecting ALL the vehicles in front of him to magically disappear. It’s not JUST one person, unfortunately almost everyone waiting in the signal seem to do this thereby making the traffic signal junction the most noisy place.

Even though they know that unless the traffic in the front moves the person in front will not be able to move, they have to keep honking until they see some kind of momentum in the vehicle in front of them. The slower the momentum higher the decibel of the horn.

Often makes me wonder if the boards “SOUND HORN” or “HORN PLEASE” on the rear of the Heavy vehicles have been misinterpreted or they have been happily been extended to all vehicles including bi cycles. ( wonder how people expect the people on bicycle to ride them at JET speed)

Do we fail to realize that no one wants to stand in the middle of the road on a HOT sunny morning (or for that matter at any time) and that the other person is as eager as we are to reach the destination at the earliest? Can we not be a little patient and wait for the few seconds till the traffic eases a little?

This scene is not just when stationed for signal. There are many people who just keep honking through their way without showing any kind of consideration for the fellow commuters. A classic example of this would be cab driver and call taxis. The minute there is continuous car honking without even a glance at the rear view mirror once can be sure it would be “YELLOW BOARD” vehicle behind.

Is there a Major problem?? Are these people passing that they are all driving an ambulance or they are part of a VIP convoy???

Am not saying we should totally abstain from using the HORN. The horn should only indicate the other person of some danger to you or to other people. Lets not use it to clear the traffic ahead of us to make way.

Let us all make a conscious effort in minimizing the use of the HORN.. If we drive with more caution and more concern for the fellow commuters am sure we will realize that we had been using the horn MORE than it was necessary.

Let us take the 1st step by trying a ONE No horn day. If we think we can still be unhurt by this we should continue this and also insist our friends do the same.

--Sudhan

No pursuit and I'm happy with what i'm

One day, I just stopped and analyzed my habits ‘What I am doing’

 I was walking home from a friend room, and my mind started wandering back to the memory lane. I had been tracking my daily expenses, and trying to figure out what I spent each month.And the numbers and just the sheer amount of expenditures was shocking.It was the trigger that my mind finally used to connect that I was showing signs of unhappiness by wanting to fill that empty void with stuff.I knew that I was buying items that I didn’t need, just because I created a need in my head, and thought I was fulfilling that to create the perfect life.


You know how people say:


• If I earned 1,00,000 more, I’d be happy and life would be perfect.
• If I bought that red coat, I’d be happy and life would be perfect.
• If I went on that vacation , I’d be happy and life would be perfect.
• If I could just clear my debt, I’d be happy and life would be perfect.

The first thing I struggled to grasp was that there was no such thing as a perfect happy life with the perfectly decorated home, and the perfect wardrobe. Every time I bought something I thought I wanted/needed, I had a new list of stuff cropping up to replace it.

There are always going to be problems, pain and sadness. It isn’t easy to be objective about yourself. I found a lot of excuses about why I did what I did. Why I purchased things I didn’t really want or need, and justifying my purchases. But instead of beating myself up of my past mistakes, I cleaned the slate and started anew.

The first thing, was to figure out the unhappy areas of my life. It didn’t have to be anything serious, but just things that made me sad or upset each time I thought about it.I needed to look for the triggers of that sadness. My new rule was that they had a right to let out the frustrations and complaints, but if they weren’t willing to listen to what I was going to say, then I didn’t want to hear their complaints.

If they aren’t ready to make changes, then I am just wasting my breath trying to help them. It still sorts of frustrates me thinking about it, but then I just tell myself:


“Hey, they chose to do that. No one forced them into those decisions. And while they may complain about it, they’re still doing it. So I just have to assume that they’re actually happy, because why would you do something that makes you unhappy? “

I am still working towards this new attitude in life. It isn’t a deadline or a project, and it gets easier with practice and time, once it becomes a habit.I’m working on not putting so much emphasis on stuff, which has started to become a natural attitude and feeling just in the past year. When I see something I want, I think: Do I really want that? Or do I want it because I’m bored?.
I am focusing on getting the best from my life, emotionally. It’s hard to explain, but for instance, I am making peace with my family’s unusual behaviour and I can’t control everything, and letting go of that control is helpful.

Sometimes it’s best just to let them go and remember that they are HAPPY doing what they’re doing, not unhappy — because if they weren’t happy, they’d stop.

I want to live in the moment, not in the future.

I am focusing on what I want first, and then figuring out what I need to do to get it. For example, I may want to retire early, and I am not planning on living it up with champagne and strawberries in retirement, so I may not need as much as I originally thought. Yes, I want to be safe and conservative, but now I can tell myself: Who cares? Go on that vacation for a month — seriously, it’s what you’ve wanted for a while, and FORGET about the money you could be earning and saving for that month.


Money isn’t everything! And living in the moment now, rather than excessively worrying about the future is what I am focusing on.


Cheers,
Sudhan